Now, first of all, a mixture of emotions will come surging to you, and it’s normal. You may feel:

• Anger – because of the hurt, pain, and devastation you feel that is caused by your trusted partner and the end of your relationship. You become very irritable and sensitive to your surroundings without you knowing it.
• Abhorrence – especially when trust and betrayal is destroyed. The months and years of building such bond can easily be broken by one single betrayal such as the involvement of a third party relationship. This hatred will leave a scar on the victim’s heart.
• Denial – the part where the feeling of loss and failure of the relationship still didn’t sink in. When all the hopes, dreams, and plans that you established before still seemed intact that can’t be easily abandoned due to the abrupt change; yet anything that felt foreign is not being recognized by your system.
• Misery – when everything is breaking into pieces. Your heart, your dreams together, your hopes for each other, your trust to him/her or to anybody at the moment, your confidence in yourself;  just about everything! It is where you feel that life is incomplete and a total wreck without your significant other. The nights will be longer and colder than any other night spent, and you may feel the intense urge to contact your partner. Daily habits that have become associated with your partner makes it more difficult to break.
• Self-blame and guilt – attributing fault to yourself for the end of the relationship and/or for the falling out of love of your partner. You may even tend to bargain for a second chance or a new beginning for the relationship in order to relive the good old’ times. There are instances that in the process of blaming oneself for being the cause, you tend to lose yourself, your pride and dignity.
• Fear – the life without your most beloved person can be frightening. It is dealing with the unknown. Although when you were still together, the unknown is still at, however, it was easier managing it together. Most of the time, you tend to update yourself of your ex’s current state and will easily be distressed to hear some news of him/her being with someone.

Dealing with such a painful parting is indeed stressful, depressing and sometimes, even life-threatening for some. However, if we look into another perspective, it would be a relief having ended an unhealthy relationship. It wouldn’t be that simple to think that way, but in time, realizations and insights will be a help in moving on.

Coping with such loss wouldn’t be easier if we seek support from our family and friends. Reaching out to people who care, understand, listen and provide emotional healing is an important factor. However, this wouldn’t be possible if you don’t help yourself towards closure that will eventually end up in acceptance. To accept the things that we cannot change and to have the courage to change the things that we can is the step to moving on.

After the breakup, you may manifest different symptoms. These include shortness of breath, increase heart rate, feeling of weak, nauseated, and loss of appetite. These symptoms may vary from one person to another. This may be normal for some people and may be shocking for others. After you experienced this stage you may progress to what is commonly called as the numbness phase. This is the time when you cannot feel the pain you just experienced. Denial of the breaks up will gradually show up in this stage. After this you will probably feel angry to what just happened. Always remember that this manifestation is just normal and there is nothing to worry about. You may be angry to the individual who broke the relationship but always remember to never ever put your anger on to that person.

Some would look for an opportunity for revenge. This is not the right thing to do. Doing this will just make things worst at the end, and you might find yourself being stupid. To aid this stage of breaking up you can ask help from your friend. You can cry it out if you want to. A hug from a friend will surely help a lot. Enjoy yourself like you never did before. Travel to other places, meet new people, and spend most of the time with peers. This will help you ease the pain and fade the painful moments. One most important thing is to never overuse this advice. Some would enjoy their selves, to the extent that they get drunk every day. Remember that your health will be the next problem if that will be the case. Putting yourself into this situation will trigger more problems in the future. You may be withdrawn out from school.

Most people would say that break up are just simple as leaving people behind and the pain will just fade away. In reality, the pain is still there, and it will have fewer chances of fading a hundred percent. Sooner enough you will learn to accept the painful situation and eventually forget everything. If you feel that seeing your ex would still trigger the pain it is best to stay away, for the moment. Always put in mind that breaking up is normal, and it is just a part of our life. People do come and go. It is only time who knows when.

The next thing you have to do is to forgive your partner and forgive yourself. This will help you to prevent revenge on your partner. Some would say that moving away from your partner will be an effective way. This is true. You must avoid seeing your partner for about six months to a year. You can also avoid making contacts for the same time span. Try to understand what just happened and what caused the broken relationship. This will help to clear your mind from doubtfulness.

Always remember that your partner is not your enemy. Do not blame him or her, don’t blame yourself, and don’t blame others. It is nobody’s fault. It just turned out that breaking up was the best thing to do. Ending a relationship is not easy. These things happened because of several reasons, and it serves as our lesson for a lifetime.

Love’s moves in a mysterious way. It will come in ways less expected and will bump against one right under his nose. Sometimes, what one is really looking for after all is just right in front of him. Otherwise, he just had to go out and find that date and date some more.

By dating, it means going out with friends, acquaintances, and colleagues without the hopes of instantly finding the right one. Finding that perfect match and date and eventually that “perfect” relationship is a work in progress.

Why do people date? For some it is just a venue for self-realization. They date just to realize if the “one” they are going out with is actually “the one.” While some do dating in order to know each other more, some others just go out and date everyone in the village just to find the right one.

No matter what purpose one has, the important thing to understand is that dating will not guarantee him of finding the perfect match. However, one will be able to realize what he is really looking for in a partner or in a relationship through dating.

Some dating tips that will ensure one to never become a dating loser:

-       Being truly yourself – do not project an image that is not you. After all, what your date is really looking for is the true you. So take off that mask and enjoy being yourself.

-       Consistency – when you finally find that perfect person for a date, be consistent on dating her. Chances are she might get the idea that you are not serious with your intentions.

-       Fun ambience – being in a relationship means that both of you should have things in common that you enjoy with together. Sometimes, this is not just short term fun. Sharing goals and ideas for a long term relationship will ensure a fun relationship.

-       Nobody is perfect – quit dreaming of having a perfect date or perfect match or even a perfect relationship. Value how great the person is and that will make the date and the relationship work.

-       Love is not instant – go out, meet different people, and get to know them. Just take it slow and do not rush for you might get stumbled.

-       All we need is Love – this idea is wrong because a relationship grows for a lot of factors. Love is just one of those. Meeting each other’s needs is essential for things to work out. Needs like trust, responsibility, honesty, appreciation, and intimacy are as important as love.

-       Time is gold – sometimes the very person that you are dating for a long time isn’t really the person for you. You might have known this a long time ago, but you just don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. The point is that the longer the waiting, the harder it will be. Time is not always a guarantee.

If you have not gotten the relationship you wanted, don’t be sad. Continue dating for you may never know what will happen next. However, if you already got one, then what you need to do next is to maintain and improve that relationship.

Just remember that “it takes two to tango.” It is teamwork that will help your relationship to grow. Below are just some tips to improve and maintain a good relationship:

-       Acknowledge your partner at all times; be it small or big thing, just notice him or her, that’s all.

-       Appreciate them. Little thanks will go all the way.

-       Be enthusiastic. Give interest to the things that interest your partner. It only shows that you care for them. Don’t be so selfish of your own wants and desires.

-       Make them feel special. Flowers and chocolates show that they are special to you.

-       Show more love. Love them more than yourself. It is the only way to show love.

It isn’t so hard to love. Don’t waste time looking for love. Just let it find you.