Finding the Perfect One

Searching for a “love of a lifetime” can be an exhausting task to do. Sometimes, devoting a larger fraction of one’s lifetime for that particular perfect match will definitely put him to that blind alley.

Love’s moves in a mysterious way. It will come in ways less expected and will bump against one right under his nose. Sometimes, what one is really looking for after all is just right in front of him. Otherwise, he just had to go out and find that date and date some more.

By dating, it means going out with friends, acquaintances, and colleagues without the hopes of instantly finding the right one. Finding that perfect match and date and eventually that “perfect” relationship is a work in progress.

Why do people date? For some it is just a venue for self-realization. They date just to realize if the “one” they are going out with is actually “the one.” While some do dating in order to know each other more, some others just go out and date everyone in the village just to find the right one.

No matter what purpose one has, the important thing to understand is that dating will not guarantee him of finding the perfect match. However, one will be able to realize what he is really looking for in a partner or in a relationship through dating.

Some dating tips that will ensure one to never become a dating loser:

-       Being truly yourself – do not project an image that is not you. After all, what your date is really looking for is the true you. So take off that mask and enjoy being yourself.

-       Consistency – when you finally find that perfect person for a date, be consistent on dating her. Chances are she might get the idea that you are not serious with your intentions.

-       Fun ambience – being in a relationship means that both of you should have things in common that you enjoy with together. Sometimes, this is not just short term fun. Sharing goals and ideas for a long term relationship will ensure a fun relationship.

-       Nobody is perfect – quit dreaming of having a perfect date or perfect match or even a perfect relationship. Value how great the person is and that will make the date and the relationship work.

-       Love is not instant – go out, meet different people, and get to know them. Just take it slow and do not rush for you might get stumbled.

-       All we need is Love – this idea is wrong because a relationship grows for a lot of factors. Love is just one of those. Meeting each other’s needs is essential for things to work out. Needs like trust, responsibility, honesty, appreciation, and intimacy are as important as love.

-       Time is gold – sometimes the very person that you are dating for a long time isn’t really the person for you. You might have known this a long time ago, but you just don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. The point is that the longer the waiting, the harder it will be. Time is not always a guarantee.

If you have not gotten the relationship you wanted, don’t be sad. Continue dating for you may never know what will happen next. However, if you already got one, then what you need to do next is to maintain and improve that relationship.

Just remember that “it takes two to tango.” It is teamwork that will help your relationship to grow. Below are just some tips to improve and maintain a good relationship:

-       Acknowledge your partner at all times; be it small or big thing, just notice him or her, that’s all.

-       Appreciate them. Little thanks will go all the way.

-       Be enthusiastic. Give interest to the things that interest your partner. It only shows that you care for them. Don’t be so selfish of your own wants and desires.

-       Make them feel special. Flowers and chocolates show that they are special to you.

-       Show more love. Love them more than yourself. It is the only way to show love.

It isn’t so hard to love. Don’t waste time looking for love. Just let it find you.